The Internet and blogs have been awash with blog posts and articles about the amount of celebrities who have died during 2016. I even posted a tribute to David Bowie myself, on this blog. And as the year went on, it didn’t seem possible that so many famous people could pass away, in such a short space of time. With all the tributes, emotional memories and recollections, vigils outside houses, and television specials, it is understandable that the deaths of so many ‘ordinary’ people might be overlooked. But it is not only celebrities who have left us, during this cruel year.
In the early hours of this morning, my beloved Aunt Edie died.
She had never written a book.
She never made a record.
She was never in a film.
She had never appeared on TV.
She never had to deal with a well-publicised drink or drug problem.
She never had to ‘come out’ in public.
She was never hounded by paparazzi.
She didn’t have to cope with rich parents who didn’t really love her.
She never appeared on the front page of a national newspaper.
But to me, she was as famous as anyone could ever be. Brought up in South London, enduring the Blitz, and working hard all of her life. She raised two lovely children, and gave them the chances that she had never enjoyed herself. She outlived her husband, both of her sisters, and her only brother. She loved her family, and was well-known for playing the piano, banging those ivories all night during long parties of sing-songs at my Grandmother’s house.
When I was young, we all lived together in the same house, and she was as good as a second mother to me, when my own Mum was out at work, or off somewhere with my Dad. She went on to become the redoubtable landlady of three South London pubs, following a family tradition started by her own uncle. Whenever she could, she helped other family members, raised money for charity, and supported her husband when he became terminally ill. She never forgot her roots, and personified the hard working-class life that made her the woman that she was.
In her latter years, she retired to rural Essex, but even when she became infirm, she refused to let any medical problems get the better of her. In a final gesture of her innate social responsibility, she even donated her body to medical research, so that future generations of doctors might learn from the circumstances of her demise.
I will miss her much more than I will miss Carrie Fisher, Debbie Reynolds, George Michael, David Bowie, or any of the other celebrities that I never met.
I will miss her more than she will ever know.
Rest in peace, Edie. You were much loved in life.
Sorry to hear of your loss Pete.
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Thanks, Jimmy. She lived a long life, but it was still a shock.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a really special lady.
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Many thanks, Abbi. She was the last remaining ‘matriarch’ in our family. We now have a funeral on the 19th. Sad times indeed.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Sorry for your loss Pete x
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Thanks very much, Lauren. She will be sorely missed.
Best wishes, (and a Happy New Year) Pete.
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Oh, Pete, I am so sorry for your loss. This was a beautiful tribute, though, and I’m glad I was able to read it and know about your wonderful Aunt Edie.
Lx
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Thanks, Lucy. That is very kind of you.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Thanks, Shiva. I have done so.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Just saw this post Pete. Thinking of you. Regards
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Thanks, Frank. She was very old, but no less missed for that. 93 or 33, the pain is the same.
Regards, Pete.
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My deepest condolences Pete. You wrote a beautiful tribute to her.
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Thanks, V. Much appreciated mate.
Best wishes, Pete.
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My heart goes out to you Pete.
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So sorry to hear about this Pete. May her soul rest in peace
Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her.
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Thanks for your prayer, Arlene. It is much appreciated.
Best wishes, Pete.
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You’re welcome.
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Very sorry to hear about your aunt. It isn’t necessary to be famous to touch people’s lives and it sounds as if she touched many. May she rest in peace. A terrible year that seems to keep going on and on. Thinking of you and your family.
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Thanks for your kind words, Olga. Two days to go. Let’s hope that’s an end to it.
Best wishes for a happy new year for you and your family. Pete.
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Pete, I am very sorry for your loss and will say a prayer for your beloved Aunt. hugs from me to you and your family my friend…oxox
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Thanks very much, Laura. It is a sad end to a troubled year indeed.
Best wishes, Pete. x
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Sorry to read the news Pete, it’s never easy loosing someone. I hope that time will heal fast and memories will fade slow.
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Thanks very much, Eddy.
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Thank you for this Pete, such a warm and loving tribute to a woman you obviously held dear in your heart. I am very sorry for your loss. xx
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Thanks, Jude. She was such a big part of our family life, and it seemed as if she would always be here. Even though we knew that would not be possible.
Best wishes, Pete. x
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Your Aunt Edie was a very special lady indeed Pete and I cannot imagine just how much you are going to miss her. As for her living to a ripe old age well, that can never mitigate one’s sorrow. All you can do is recall and treasure the precious memories that you have of her. Brian
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Thanks for those kind words, Brian. No doubt you recall what a personality she was in our family, and appreciate how much she will be missed.
Hope you are feeling better mate.
Love and best wishes, Pete and Julie. x
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Beautiful post, Pete. Your Aunt Edie and my grandmother Nan would have been the best of friends. Reading your words was quite heartening. Thank you. I’m so sorry for your loss, And yes, Edie was by far the real winner amongst the stars.
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That’s nice to hear, Jennie. If we can be heartened by a life well-lived and appreciated, then that will help with the pain of loss.
Very best wishes as always, Pete.
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Yes, you are so right. Best to you!
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Pete, I was more saddened by the loss of Debbie Reynolds, who was a Las Vegas resident, than by the death of Carrie Fisher. But it’s true that while these celebrity deaths are sad, the sadness does not endure long. When a close relative dies, though, the sadness is deep and everlasting. I was very fond of my aunt (my father’s sister), and when she died prematurely at the age of 72 on July 19, 2006, I cried…and cried! We had an emotional bond that surpassed that which existed between myself and my own parents. I have a few small articles that once belonged to her, and cherish them. We shared many views on life, spent some time together in her final years, and I even spoke to her at length (three states between us) on the phone a couple of days before she passed away. She was bubbly and full of optimism, despite having lived a very difficult life, and also, in her last months, despite ongoing suffering from an accidental head injury—a falling box at her place of employment. I would go so far as to say that my aunt was heroic, and I admired her very much. I miss her to this day.
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Heroic is the perfect way to describe these doughty ladies who worked hard, and made the best of everything that life threw at them. That their loss has such an impact on the families left behind is a tribute in itself.
Thanks for your kind comment, David, and for sharing your own story too.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Fame has nothing to do with how much someone is loved or will be missed. So sorry for your loss. May your Aunt Edie rest in peace and live forever in your memories.
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Thanks very much for those kind words, Peggy. They are much appreciated.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Rest in peace Edie.
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Cheers, Jim. Much appreciated mate.
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I’m so sorry, Pete. As we say in Greece, may you always remember her. Best wishes, Marina
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Thanks, Marina, I am sure she will never be forgotten by our family.
Best wishes, Pete.
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RIP Edie, I remember her well . . always a smiling face and a spit for your Mum. My condolences Pete and to Sue.
Love and all the best, Ro xx
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Thanks, Ro. Her and my Mum were like twins in many ways, that’s true.
Take care mate. x
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I’m very sorry for your loss, Pete. Your Aunt Edie is as important to this world as any celebrity and I know the world feels her absence.
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Thanks very much, GP. It was very nice of you to say so.
Regards as always, Pete.
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Aunt Edie made contributions to you and THAT enriches my life.
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My maternal grandfather died when my sons were very young. They got to meet him. I don’t think a day goes by in the 35 years since he died that I don’t think of him in one context or another and smile. As with your Aunt, it hurt at first. It still brings tears to my eyes. But, as long as you have memories of her she continues as she did in life being a compass and source of joy. My condolences for your loss. Keep her close.
Warmest regards, Theo
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Thanks for your kind words, Theo. We are lucky to have a lifetime of memories of her, so she will never be far from our thoughts.
Best wishes, Pete.
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She sounds like an extraordinary woman and you write very well of her. My condolences on your loss.
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Thanks, Lloyd, that is very kind of you.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I’m so sorry Pete. You’ve written a lovely tribute to her though.
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Thanks very much, Kim. It is a sad loss for the family.
Best wishes, Pete.
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So sorry to hear about your Aunt Edie Pete, she sounds like a great lady.
Hope you, Julie and Ollie are well. Lots of love to you all Xx
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Thanks, Helen. We are OK thanks. Hope you and all the family had a great Christmas.
Love and best wishes as always. Pete. xx
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A beautiful tribute to your dear aunt. So sorry for your loss. Treasure the memories..
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Thanks very much, Susanne. She will be greatly missed.
Best wishes, Pete.
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So sorry for your loss, Pete. A very touching farewell.
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Thank you, John. A sad close to the year for our family, unfortunately.
Best wishes, Pete.
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My condolences, Pete. We tend to lavish praise and memorials on those public figures no one has ever met in real life because we are only familiar of one aspect of their lives. Most of us, hopefully, were fortunate enough to have or had an Aunt Edie. She lives through you now, buddy. Maybe give her a little immortality and use your writing talent to make a biography. đŸ™‚
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Thanks very much for your kind words, Doug. It was just one more thing on top of a pretty awful year in 2016.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Pete, thanks for those kind words about mum, I thought because of her age the impact of her passing wouldn’t be as great. I guess I was just kidding myself, I’m going to miss her immensely, take care mate.
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It doesn’t matter how old they are mate, the loss is just as painful. I still miss my Mum every day, after almost five years.
Love to you and Debbie. Take care, Pete. x
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So sad to read this Pete, but a lovely tribute to your 2nd Mum, she would be happy you felt this way about her.
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Thanks, FR. She knew what high regard she was held in, so that’s good to know for those of us who miss her.
Best wishes, Pete. x
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Aunt Edie the definition of a life well lived. I am so glad you had her in your life as the memories will stay with you as a comfort. Sorry for your loss Pete xx Kate
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Thanks very much, Kate. As always, you are most kind.
Best wishes, Pete. x
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Thanks so much Pete for a truly lovely tribute to my Mum. I was holding it together quite well until I read your post and now I’m in bits. But she was worth it, she was a diamond. X
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It was the only way I could deal with it myself, Sue. Hard to believe she has gone…XX
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To both of you…deepest sympathies. What a lovely post…really beautiful.
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Many thanks for that, it was very kind.
Best wishes, Pete.
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We’re very sorry to read about yor loss, dear Pete. Aunt Edie would have loved to read your loving tribute. Which once again reminds us how important it is to tell the people we love how precious they are and how much we care for them.
All the best to you in Beetley from us in Cley,
Dina x
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Thanks very much, Dina, that is most kind. She was well-aware how much she was loved, we can be thankful for that.
Love from Beetley, Pete and Ollie. X
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So sorry to hear of your loss, Pete. You have written a very moving and heartfelt tribute to a much loved relative
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Thanks very much, Sue. As always, you are very kind.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I try….
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I wholeheartedly agree, Dina
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What a great tribute, Pete. Your Aunt Edie was a gem. I’m sorry for your loss. She was a real person who had a deep impact on your life. So often we become enamored with the celebrity and raise them up on a pedestal, forgiving them for all their foibles and excusing their improprieties. Your Aunt Edie never was famous, but I say it’s a blessing in disguise. I’m glad your life was full of her as her goodness is evident in you.
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Thanks very much for such a nice comment, Cindy. She was such a large part of my life that even knowing she was very old doesn’t dull the pain of her loss.
Best wishes, Pete.
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This was a really touching post, we lose someone spl to us and it hurts a lot, some people really mean the world to us and losing them is heartbreaking.
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Thanks for your kind and thoughtful comment, Anki. It is much appreciated.
Best wishes, Pete.
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I lost my best friend. All of us are grieving someone. I am so sorry for your loss!
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Such a hard year. I am sorry to hear about your friend too. 2016 will be one to remember, for all the wrong reasons. x
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