This is another of my seasonal posts on this subject. If you think you have seen something like it before on this blog, you are not mistaken.
Tomorrow is the traditional time to make a New Year resolution. To be determined to change something, abstain from something, or perhaps to embrace something new. All over the world people will be starting diets to try to lose weight, attempting to stop smoking, stop drinking, or to stop doing whatever makes them unhappy.
Many others will be embarking on something instead. A new job, a new relationship, learning to drive, going back into education, leaving a failed relationship, or trying to start a family. It might be a new hobby, deciding to do the travelling they had always promised themselves, or making up with old friends, and distant family members.
Something about January the first, at least in the western world, gets people motivated for change.
So what will I be planning? The short answer is nothing at all.
My personal experience of resolutions is that they didn’t work, at least for me. The date is quite frankly insignificant, because if you really want to stop doing something, you will. And it will be on whatever day that happens to be. The same applies to starting something. Why wait until the cold and dark days of January to do that?
When I was twenty-five, I stopped drinking alcohol. That lasted a good few years, until something happened to provide me with the excuse to start again. When I was forty, I stopped smoking. Not on the 1st of January though, it was on my birthday, in March. That lasted for just over six months, until that familiar reason to start again popped up. When I was forty-five, I made the huge decision to end my marriage at the time. But I didn’t wait until January, once again choosing my birthday as the moment to act. In September 2012, I gave up smoking. Well technically not really, as I replaced cigarettes with electronic vaping, so it was half-hearted. But it worked.
Since then, I have never made a resolution. Never promised myself to do something that was unlikely to happen. Instead, I accepted that I am generally irresolute.
So to all of you making a firm resolve today or tomorrow, I wish you luck.
But remember, the date is immaterial. Resolution is the only thing that counts.
A Happy New Year from Beetley.
My very best wishes to you all. Pete.